Although Dick Van Dyke had to miss the third iteration of his Vandy Camp fan gathering this weekend, he was there in spirit. The 6x Emmy winner’s wife Arlene Silver announced that he was “not up to” attending Saturday’s event in Malibu as planned,

Van Dyke has reflected openly on the downside of growing older. He once told fans he had hoped to remake The Odd Couple with his late friend Ed Asner. “That would’ve been such fun, and we lost it. I’ve lost a lot of friends,” he said.

Van Dyke was scheduled to host a Vandy Camp event with his wife at their namesake Arlene & Dick Van Dyke Theater at Malibu High School in Malibu, California, on Saturday. But Arlene showed up solo, acknowledging she was “not the Van Dyke [attendees were] expecting,” per People.